Murphy Resident Finds Perfection in Imperfections
On July 29, 2006, Barbara Chevalier’s 14-year-old son, Bryan, was shot at their Frisco home. The person who shot him was a 16-year-old stranger. Bryan answered the door and the shooter shot him twice. Bryan survived, but the event changed the course of their life physically, mentally and spiritually.
After the shooting, Bryan spent thirty days in the hospital and then he couldn’t be left alone for six months following his release from the hospital due to the severity of his injuries. During that time, Barbara worked from home as a medical transcriptionist.
The night of the shooting, Bryan was supposed to go to dinner with his mom and her boyfriend Simon; however, he opted out, feeling that staying home playing his new video game was a better use of his night. When Barbara and Simon returned home, their house was surrounded by police cars and wrapped in crime scene tape, and thus began their new reality.
A week after the shooting, while still recovering in the hospital, Bryan was interviewed for a television news report. The reporter asked, “So Bryan, what would you like to say to the person who shot you?” His answer, “I’d like to thank him.” He added, “Yes! I’d like to thank him for bringing my family and friends closer to me than they’ve ever been in my life.” So not only had Barbara’s 6’4”, 220 pound 14-year-old son shrunk to 180 pounds, he had realized the importance of loved ones.
Before her son was shot, Barbara said she was always in a rush. She was a single mom and held multiple jobs to be able to give her three sons what they wanted. Since the shooting, she has learned to weigh what is important for her and act based on that information. “Our words, thoughts and actions are what brings people, things, and circumstances into our lives –whether good, bad or indifferent. Our thoughts and words are powerful and we should guard them and choose them much more wisely. “
Barbara has written a book, Keep Searching for Blue Jays, which details the shooting of her son, the trial, recovery and the mental and spiritual growth that has taken place. It is available on amazon in both Kindle and paper back.
Barbara said she became a realtor because it had always been a dream. She said, “Life is too short to sit on the sidelines dreaming… With nearly losing my son tragically, that's what pushed me to reach for my dreams. I finished my degree and got my license to practice real estate…Truly, what our family endured is our strength and blessing. Sometimes we can get caught up in the trappings of life and forget to ask God for guidance. It's human nature. But God has shown me, the perfection is truly in the imperfections. Nothing is coincidence. It's up to us to ask - what's good about this - especially when it's difficult to find any good - that's where exponential growth is found...” (Barbara is a realtor with eXp Realty and can be reached at 972-333-3495 or BarbaraSellsCollinCounty@gmail.com.)
A year ago Barbara, and her husband Simon, moved to Murphy. Barbara said she loves it here. While growing up, she watched the show Dallas and said that someday she would live near Southfork. She laughingly said she didn’t realize she had obtained that goal until she was walking her dog and saw she had reached that childhood ambition.